Children and adolescents who have experienced divorce have unique needs. Even in relatively amicable circumstances, stress, conflict, and loss all happen at once, and this can overwhelm parents and their children. In the best of circumstances, parents struggle with guilt, fear, and anxiety as they try to provide support, understanding, and comfort to their children.
Children see the physical and emotional split happening between their parents and then try to adjust to conflicting parental messages, disruptions in stability and consistency, and the possibility of blended family issues. It is common for children and adolescents to regress, to be sad or depressed, to take on undeserved self-blame or guilt, or to act out dramatically in an attempt to force parents to re-unite.
In divorces that are not amiable, children struggle and suffer to a much greater degree. In most divorces, it is beneficial for parents to seek out support and guidance as they make their own transitions into new individual and parenting roles.
Call me if I can support you and your children in this difficult time of your lives.